Five resolutions I did not make:
1. I do not resolve to get more sleep
I’m a mom. I feel like this doesn’t really need more explanation, but I could be wrong. The truth is that I’m not currently in charge of how much sleep I get. I can set myself up for the best night sleep by going to bed at the desired hour and hoping that my children sleep through the night. I would say that 97% of nights that’s exactly what happens, but I cannot plan for it. My infant still wakes sometimes and stays up for 2-3 hours. My son might get sick. You get the point. The best I can do here is set my routine and abide by it for maximum benefit on the nights everyone successfully sleeps through the night.
2. I do not resolve to get up early
Listen, I don’t always get a full nights sleep so I’m not going to push myself to get up at 5:30a just because some guru suggested it. I’d be miserable. My family would be miserable. This is truly an instance where if momma wasn’t happy then nobody would be (which is not a phrase you’ll hear very often in my egalitarian home).
3. I do not resolve to be a better mom
Quite frankly, I think I’m already pretty great. I get rave reviews from the two that matter. I mean my son will tell you he has the most fun mommy ever. So I’m cool.
That isn’t to say that I don’t have moments where I feel like an abject failure. I’m just not going to let those moments rule my life.
4. I do not resolve to read more
I read 35 books last year. I’m feeling good about that, but I don’t feel the need to add more pressure to myself. I set my reading goal at 24 this month. That’s a goal that I’ll reevaluate at the 6-month point if I’m getting close or way over. Otherwise, I’m cool with leaving it as is.
5. I do not resolve to follow my dreams.
I’ll just ask them where they’re going and catch up with them later. If you get this reference, I owe you a fist bump and big hug.
Guys, I don’t have a New Year’s resolution.
I’m a sucker for reviewing my life and of course getting new beginnings. I’m a sucker for a fresh start and a new year, but I have come to realize that I get to choose when that fresh start will occur. I don’t have to wait around for the calendar to tell me it’s okay.
Every year, I try to think about what I’ll do with my year. I think is there anything I’d like to resolve to do, and it just feels like it’s not the right time. It’s a time of year when I’ve just finished traveling around the country visiting family. It comes right before another new year for me aka my birthday. It comes during a time when I can’t really be bothered to think about what I want from my life in more than one word. So that’s why I go with the power word. Do you have one? Tell me about it in the comments.
This year for me is purely about…
Now, I’m generally a happy person. I’m generally a person who has a smile on her face, but I still know that I could do better. Part of doing better for me equals showing up here for you. It equals bringing to you some of the relief I’ve felt in my life over the last couple of years. I mean it’s 1PM and I’ve made all of 2 decisions today. I decided to cancel a lunch, and I decided what to eat for lunch. Somedays, I don’t even have to do that. That has already made me infinitely happier, because I’m not in a constant state of decision fatigue.
So my promise to you is that we will make strides toward being happier, more fulfilled, and less stressed together. We’ll make giant strides toward living the stress-LESS life together.